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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]vast difference between summer camp and a car. Most people would want their children to go to summer camp because it is an enriching experience for the kids. OP didn't say they had any problems with the kid going to camp -- just with the way the mom asks for the money. Set that aside and think about the kid instead.

BTW the way you describe the dynamic between the DH, her ex and his checkbook sounds just like a married couple's and was probably established when they were married. That may be what is irking the OP, since the money isn't really an issue.[/quote]

The child is already going to camp (according to the OP) during the weeks he is with him during the summer. I dont think its fair to assume that camp is a positive in this case as many kids like some downtime during the summer too. My dss has to go to camp all summer and while he loves camp for a while, he also loves getting to skip days when I'm off shift. It sounds like the OP and her husband have decided to pay for the camp this time, its entirely appropriate to begin the conversation that decisions involving  money above child suppprt need to be mutual.

I wish people would lay off the evil stepmom business. While it's nice that blended families are now explicitly welcomed in this forum, the level of hostility is really off-putting. I don't think we'd put up with homophobic rants on the former gay and lesbian forum. [b]I don't see adoptive parents being told they shouldnt have kids in the first place.[/b] Apologies if I'm just not noticing it (and I'm totally referring to just thus forum, not to what people have to deal with in real life) but why the special level of nastiness towards steps?[/quote]

I posted that comment about the DH. He is the father, not the step father.[/quote]

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