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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's another perspective ...

I am surmising that the stepmom was a SAHM because she essentially took over raising the OP and her brother (who were still children) and then gave birth to a half-sibling two years later.  Raising someone else's children is never an easy job and is rarely appreciated.  It is especially difficult when it is the mother who has died and another woman comes into the family.

Immediately, most people's thoughts are "evil stepmother" which couldn't be further from the truth in many cases.  The fact the OP says she gets along with her stepmom is an indicator that this woman probably did the best she could in caring for two children who had lost their mother.  Evidenced because it sounds like the OP and her brother are both living successful lives.

I am probably sure that the OP's father had many heart-to-heart conversations with stepmom about the challenges of being part of a "blended" family.  I am also probably sure that as a show of his love and gratitude towards her for 25 years of life together, he wanted SM to live a future life without worry once he was gone.  C'mon... she was not some gold-digger who swooped in during the final stages of his life with her claws out for a bag full of cash.

OP doesn't say whether her father was ill for a long time.  Did SM care for him during illnesses?   So for 25 years she raised two children who were not hers, gave new life to a grieving widower and gave him another son, and watched the love of her life pass away.

Try to put a price tag on that.  How much is YOUR life worth - would you do the same?

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Aren't you a tad dramatic? OP was a teenager when her father remarried. Not a whole lot of raising left to do.   Her stepmother married her mother because of her own heart.   Not as an act of charity to OP and her brother.   You're making it sound like she grew them from seed, and everything good in their lives they owe to her.

So, she didn't raise two children who weren't hers for 25 years.  They were out of the house in a few years after she married their mother.  Gave a new life to a grieving widower? He gave her a new one too didn't he.   She didn't give HIM a son, she had a child because she wanted to have a child; it's the greatest lie that women have children for men. Our maternal instinct is way stronger than anything men feel.  Everyone will watch their spouse die at some point. It doesn't require unemployment.

What do you mean how much your life is worth? No one gave anyone life here, no one saved anyone's life. Enough with the drama.

As to OP's question: I get it. It sucks. However, your father divided the estate as he saw fit. You got yours and your SM got hers.  She isn't giving her son YOUR money, she's sharing with him out of her share.  It sucks but remember it's her money. She could blow it in Vegas or give it to charity or light her fireplace with it.  Yes it sucks but you know what the great thing is? You don't have to like her! She's not family or anything. Leave her to grow old with her son. [/quote]

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