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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m definitely not a SAHM. I also make more than my husband. I’ve been asking him to see a counselor forever but he’s always so busy with work, he says he doesn’t have the time. He reminds me how little we have when I buy a coffee work or want to sign our kids up for a sport (currently only one is doing one sport). [b]He’s going from $80ks to $60ks[/b]. [/quote]

Have you run the numbers with him?  [b]That much of a change will be a significant decrease in your monthly cash flow.  It could be $1,000 to $1,200 a month less cash or more.[/b]  Can you guys afford that?[/quote]

Note that they’re already feeling the pressure from him quitting his 100K job for the current 80K position. Hence he gets mad at her if she ever buys a cup of coffee. This is not going to end well... [/quote]

OP wants money, money, more money... [/quote]

Mmm. It sounds like OP doesn’t want to have every $3 purchase micromanaged because the husband doesn’t want to work...[/quote]

The coffee poster wasn't the OP, it was a different poster who had been in a similar situation. I would be worried about a dynamic where DH works for a lower and lower salary AND doesn't pick up any slack at home. I had a depressed and unemployed spouse who did NOTHING for 9 months. That situation set up a bad dynamic for us where I was killing myself at work and taking on side gigs for extra $ and doing almost everything at home. My resentment and my spouse's passivity were relationship killers. We divorced and my ex stepped up, has tripled their salary and is the sole bread winner to an unemployed GF. Not sure what the moral of that story is except that I wish we had both addressed our underlying mental health issues instead of just stewing in dysfunction for years.[/quote]

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