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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a guy and I prefer very traditional gender roles. Luckily Dw does also.

I provide via excellent job so she can raise our kids and we have enough $ for help. My expectations is she keeps in shape, well groomed, wears quality and attractive clothes, and yes we have an active sex life, which includes lots of what we both want. doesn't mean bj or sex every day but we both try to be available for each other.
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Our marriage is more or less like this as well.  But even with this, there is the expectation the both spouses:
1) Be kind.  Speak at least as nicely to your spouse as you would to a stranger or a co-worker.

2). Be considerate.  Anticipate some of the needs of your spouse at least some of the time.  If the other person something important coming up, give them some space.  This isn’t the time to bring up what a PITA his mom is.  If someone is sick at home, then offer to go to the store and get some food or medicine.

[b]3). Both partners should know the financial situation in the house, the day to day running of the house, how to care for the house and cars and make basic repairs, and how to take care of the children. And both should help the other out when needed.  If he loses his job, then she needs to cut way back on spending and maybe look for part time work.  If she is sick or has surgery, then he should step up and do the basics to manage the day to day of the house.  You don’t just keep doing you and tell the other person to step it up or remain ignorant of their contributions. [/b]
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This is what I see most of the complaints about on this forum from men and women.  People either dont understand or underestimate what the other person is bringing to the marriage, and at the same time leave no room for their partner to make a change.  Wife is mad that husband isn’t home more, but isn’t willing to make significant changes to their spending to enable him to work less.  Husband doesn’t value his SAHW, but won’t step it up at home so she can return to work.  
Also, just doing small things to make the other persons job easier on a regular basis is helpful too.  If he’s making dinner, set the table and fix a salad.  If he’s mowing the lawn, do the inside household chores so you both have the afternoon free, etc.  [/quote]

Unfortunately, "very traditional roles" do not leave room for change. And "very traditional roles" usually lead to spouses who do not appreciate what their counterparts do. It's all fined and good until the DH loses the high income  and cannot find a similar job (it happens), or the DH falls in love with someone else (it happens!). And the DW is left at a huge disadvantage if the marriage does not work out.

I would never advise my daughter to get into a marriage with "very traditional roles". Somewhat traditional (e.g. work part time, work at a less demanding job)? maybe. Very traditionl? Absolutely not.

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