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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think you need to be nice, per se. Clear, firm, repeat as needed. Document in all the right places. Maybe offer some additional information on her condition to her teacher and other caregivers so there is more context around the food issues.

But let’s talk about the grandparents. Shouldn’t these people be helping you and your partner in any way possible to strategize your DD diagnosis? From what you described this will be a life long challenge, not some passing thing. I hope your therapist is coaching you on how to have an extremely blunt conversation with these folks. They need to be on Team DD even if it means no goodies. especially if it means no goodies ! She needs support especially going through life feeling different.

Forget being nice just focus on the message. Take care Mama [/quote]

This might sound over the top, but if they’re local, I’d take them to an appointment with me so they can hear it from a medical professional. DS was going through some medical stuff and his anxiety went through the roof. MIL was dismissive of a lot of it, both medical and emotional. She’s not local, but he had a therapy appointment scheduled during one of her visits, and I asked if she’d like to accompany us. It was eye opening for her to see that the therapist wasn’t just blowing smoke up my kid’s ass and coddling all his big feelings, but she was teaching him coping strategies and helping him with long term plans for how to handle things. She still slips up sometimes but she usually checks herself. She’s also come around to be one of DS’s biggest advocates. When her older brother (who she always defers to-weird family dynamic) made a comment about DS being too soft and that he’s babied too much, MIL launched into an info session about DS’s struggles and how much his therapist helped him. (Doesn’t sound very dramatic but it was like a pivotal moment in a sports movie when the coach gives a rousing speech at halftime and then everyone rallies around the kid who isn’t a great player but has a heart of gold.) [/quote]

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