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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you are exaggerating and setting your kid up to feel self conscious. She is only 4, so I assume she is in your care most of the time. You said the side effect is more hunger so she eats more and gains weight, this is how everyone puts on weight. The key is to give her healthy food when she is hungry. Occasional treats are fine. How often is she around huge pieces of cake and lollipops. ( You would have to eat an awful lot of lollipops to cause weight gain btw)

I have a large child, not overweight but solid and she loves to eat. We eat healthy meals 90% of the time and mostly healthy snacks. I let it go when she is with other people. You will drive yourself crazy and drive your kid to hide things from you.[/quote]

I would make one amendment.  "My child has a medical condition.  She can have small amounts of certain foods (like sugar) but more than that could cause her to have a problem.  Please do not give anything else to her without checking with me first."  That gives them the information that an approved amount of something like cake/cupcake or candy is okay, but more is not.

I find that framing something for people like (a little is okay, more is not) helps them better understand the boundaries that they shouldn't cross.  When you don't give that information, people like this PP will frame whatever you say with their own personal experience and ignore what you say.  People think they know better, when they don't.  Then they go and do the wrong thing because it looks to them like whatever they think it is rather than following your request because they think they know better than you do.

And PP--stop ignoring other people's instructions and overlaying your own personal experience on other people's children.  You don't always know better than those parents and their doctors.  Sometimes, you may be right, but in some cases you will do more harm than help if you use your personal judgment instead of following the parents instructions and requests.  [/quote]

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