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[quote=Anonymous]I agree it's weird.  I didn't change my name.  My kids have husband's last name.

I think you're misunderstanding the reason why some women don't change their name.  As someone else said, for me not changing my name was less some statement about the patriarchy and more about how odd it seemed to wake up one day, in my case at close to 30, and start calling myself a new name.  I like my name.  When I asked my to-be husband if he would start calling himself a new name one day, he thought about it for 3 seconds and said of course not.  When I thought about having a new name, it felt very weird to me.  Totally get it that it works for others.

Flash forward several years and I didn't really think about giving the kids my last name and we probably should have at least had the conversation.  But they're getting one name or the other.  I knew I didn't want to hyphenate.  But yes, it is just women accepting the default that the man's name gets passed on and ours doesn't.  [/quote]

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