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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would tread gently, as the other child obviously has some social skills issues.[/quote]

OP here. I figured that and neither I nor my son want to upset this kid, but he has a right to say "no."[/quote]

No one is saying he doesn't have the "right to say no."

But, this is your opportunity to have him advocate for himself. This is not dangerous or threatening situation. He has to be able to say: "Larlo, you've been texting me a lot. And it's making me [uncomfortable/fell awkward]. I don't appreciate being texted 52 times in a day. I'll see you in school." If it escalates, THEN you get the school involved.

It sounds like BOTH boys need some social skills, but in different ways.[/quote]

When somebody is really obsessive you sometimes need to walk on eggshells. Your suggestion could make things escalate IMO. If a child has already declined many times that should be clear enough and if it isn't then there are other things going on where it makes more sense to have a counselor involved.[/quote]

Sorry, but you're being ridiculous. 12 year old kids are learning social norms, including lots of them being new to using the phone. It's our job to guide them.

I've seen kids typing in all caps. Sending lines and lines of emojis. "Stalking" each other to hang out. Jumping straight to the conclusion that the kid in the OP has something wrong with him or is dangerous or is truly "stalking" him is ABSURD. There is nothing that indicates the OPs kids told him to stop; just that he doesn't want to hand out. Those are two different things. If AFTER he has told him to stop and he doesn't, then the counselor should be involved. Not before.

Are you all so nervous in real life? Jesus help us all if you are.

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But OP's kid already said no. And has stopped responding. There's nothing more for OP's kid to learn here - he politely responded to the request and removed himself from the situation. The other kid needs to back off. They are 12, not 6. [/quote]

False. Even in true "stalking" situations and harassment cases, one is often told they need to specifically say "stop contacting me." Just relying on signals does not always communicate a position. And it is kind of lame. Just tell him to "stop contact me." or stop texting me. He has NOT said that.[/quote]

Google law is not your friend.  LOL.[/quote]

Nor yours. And FWIW, there are several other posts agreeing with me on here. No one is going to to deal seriously with "stalking" fro a 12 yo who has not been told to stop. They just won't.[/quote]

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