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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]After 52 declines - I think he could also stop replying - ghosting can be cruel but not sure there are any other options[/quote]

He tries ghosting and the texts keep coming[b] so he responds now and then[/b].[/quote]

This is the problem.  From the other kid's perspective, he isn't getting a straight answer.  The other kid is probably not letting his parents know what he's doing, so he is in this situation unguided and is misinterpreting the response.  This is a child that is socially naive and doesn't understand the non-straight answers he is getting.

First he gets "No thanks." but this is from someone he has hung out with in the past.  He thinks this is more "not this time" rather than "not ever."  The your son tries to ghost him.  So he keeps trying.  If you son truly ghosted him, then maybe after a few weeks, he'd get the idea, but probably just when he thinks about giving up, your son finally responds, and it starts the whole clock over again.  This socially inept kid gets his hopes up that it's only sometimes that he doesn't get an answer, but sometimes he does.

So, your son needs to send a message like "I know that we hung out last year, but I've moved on to other friends and am not interested in hanging out with you any more.  Please stop contacting me."  It needs to be explicit and then your son needs to either block the number or completely ghost the kid with no response.

FYI, in many situations, where the overtures are friendly, schools will not treat this like stalking or bullying without an actual explicit message telling the kid to stop contacting your son and that he is not interested in seeing the friend.  Otherwise, they tread gently.  If you send the more explicit message and the still continues to contact your son, then you have something to report that is actionable on the part of the school. [/quote]

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