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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not about getting ice cream after a football game.  It's about treating boys and girls differently....at night.  There are a lot more situations where girls can be victimized.  There are some boys out there that do not respect boundaries.  I understand where OP is coming from as a father of two DD's.  The consequences of a negative experience is far greater as a girl than for boys, not in all cases but in general.

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ITD. Boys are far more likely to get in fights, beat up or arrested.  [/quote]

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lol.. my DS is on the short side and doesn't like getting physical. I suppose things could change in the future, but right now, he hasn't even hit puberty yet, and he's a nerd.  Getting into fights or arrested is certainly  not really something I am overly concerned about for DS, though of course, we have had talks about staying out of trouble and not hanging out with other kids who will get him into trouble.   Getting beat up, maybe.  I could see that given how small he is which is why when he's out at night, I make sure he's part of a group.[/quote]

No offence but you are so mistaken on this.  The boys who are smaller and look like easy pickings are more likely to be targeted for a fight.

I would like to remind you all that all this about girls being more vulnerable is really talking about rape - you are worried your dd will be sexually assaulted[b]. The great majority of sexual assaults are committed by people the victim already knows.  Girls are only SLIGHTLY more likely to be sexually assaulted than boys.  
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Pay attention to where your boys are too, and check your sexism at the door.  If you are comfortable with the risk your son takes then it should be fine for your dd too.  If it isn't going to be okay for your dd, then don't let your son do it either.

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Indeed.. which is why I would be more hesitant for DD to be out, even with a group of friends.

What source are you using regarding a high rate of sexual assault of boys?

I read somewhere that 1 out of every 16 girls first sexual encounter will be from rape. That's scary AF to me.

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/health/1-in-16-u-s-women-say-their-first-sexual-intercourse-was-rape

[quote]One out of five women and one out of 71 men will be raped in their lifetime, according to the CDC’s 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey.[/quote]

That statistic does not indicate that girls are only SLIGHTLY more likely to be sexually assaulted than boys.  [/quote]

Rape is an unhelpful term as in some definitions and studies - makes can't be raped. Also some stats are pulled from reported rapes - again, women are far more likely than men to report.

I did a lot of research on this a few years back - up until the age of 11/12, sexual abuse of boys and girls is about even. From then on - through the teen years and into adulthood when there is less ongoing abuse and more assaults, females experience more. Sexual abuse of males in homosexual relationships is higher, especially in the teen years. In adulthood, men do experience sexual assault but at a lesser rate than women (women are about 3 times more likely to experience any sexual assault). Teen boys and men use different terms and are often socially conditioned to see what happened to them as a good thing rather than an assault - even if they didn't consent. While the rate of official reporting is low for everyone, it is much lower for males than females. Depending on where people get their stats.

I think the overall stat is that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men will experience some kind of unwanted sexual contact during their lifetime.

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