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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's so funny because so many of us struggle with parents who REFUSE assistance, and here you have the opposite problem! Nothing is easy ;).

Do get straight on power of attorney stuff - it may be her right to move back into the other apartment, but not your obligation to help organize it if you don't think it's the right thing.

Is there a daytime activity room, or a group day program she could join? That might be a good option that you can fill in around with regular but not full time aide shifts. [/quote]
Yes, we have POA, but that just means we can ALSO handle things for her. It doesn't mean she CANNOT do things. She is free to make her own arrangements to move back into assisted living - which would entail phoning them to discuss it (she can't do that) and arranging for movers (can't do that, either).

And yes, this new place has wonderful activities. They have concerts (local stuff, sorta crappy, but still....), outings to shows and restaurants, a book club, daily movies, all sorts of "word games" after breakfast, and they even have an exercise room with daily classes. They also have a library. I have encouraged her to do all that, but she says she wouldn't know where in the building to find them. I actually got a map of the facility (it's all one big building) and marked "exercise room, 11:00 a.m. daily", "lounge for book club, Mondays at 2 pm", that type of thing. But she has said the map is too confusing and that she would be lost unless someone escorts her. (That is where the aide will come in.)[/quote]

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