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[b]But one can be both Chinese—the ethnicity—and Jewish—the religion.[/b]

DP. Here’s what I told my former SIL about the difference between her transracially adopted son and her friend’s adopted white son who is the same race. “Y[b]our child’s face tells part of his story. He can’t easily step into any shul in the US and be accepted the way Friend’s white son can. Give him options for finding community.”[/b][/quote]

This, so this.[/quote]

My father is Chinese.  My mom is Polish and Jewish.  They met in Ny.  I was raised Jewish.  My facial features are clearly Chinese.  I have always been welcome in any shul I’ve entered.  I have never found it difficult to become a part of the multiple Jewish communities that I have lived in due to my facial features.
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That’s entirely different and you know it. Your mother is Jewish. [/quote]

+1. What a dumba$$ post. [/quote]

No it’s not. If the PP looks Chinese, presumably people can’t tell from looking at her that her mother is Jewish. She is responding to a poster who said people aren’t accepted at all synagogues because of the way they look. [/quote]

[b]Young Jews of color have written a lot on the internet about their experiences the first time they showed up at Hillel in college or their neighborhood synagogue as a twenty-something.[/b] Sometimes it goes beyond stares. Some people have been approached with the assumption they are mistakenly there. Others have been challenging in a hostile way. Obviously, not every Jew of color has that experience and not every community is initially unwelcoming, but it happens enough that adoptive parents should practice with their child how to cope with it. The community they entered as an infant or toddler is used to their non-European appearance. Elsewhere might be unprepared. Especially in this day and age with security concerns, some congregants are are on edge and think they need to look out for someone who “doesn’t belong”.[/quote]

[b]You're misconstruing what you've read.[/b]
You're talking about 2 VERY specific communities in the Jewish religion, not Jews as a whole.

The othodox & hasidic communities are not very welcoming to anyone unlike them, as they've been the target of harassment forever.

I was raised as a reform Jew & the hasidic community would be unwelcoming of ME... a Jew!

What you're talking about has NOTHING to do with the color of their skin & everything to do with the WAY they practice Judaism.

You might think I'd be more welcoming because I look very Jewish, right?   You'd be very wrong.

It's not the color of their skin that's a dead giveaway -- it's the way they're dressed, it's who they're with, it's how you carry yourself & it's how you approach them.

If a Chinese or black person approached the orthodox community dressed like them, with a beard, payes, dark suit & tallit, they would never, EVER approach them in a hostile manner, because they'd look like they belonged there. 
They might be curious about their back story, but they certainly would never shun them, as they're showing great respect to their traditions (which mean everything to them).

Reformed & Conservative Jews are welcoming of all colors, shapes, sizes & flavors to their congregation... the more, the merrier!
Jews have been targeted & persecuted for thousands of years; I promise you that they don't treat others the way they've been treated. 
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What are you reading that says Orthodox or Hasidic to you?[/quote]

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