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[quote=Anonymous]OP your husband need to learn to respect you! I'm an extrovert and DH is an introvert. I'm happy to have anyone come over for dinner. I'm fine hosting huge sleep overs or playdates for the kids. Having an impromptu pool party for 30 people and hosting large extended relative dinners. It sucks the life out of DH. We have an arrangement where it is fine for him to excuse himself when the crowd becomes too much for him. I don't ask him to do anything for any of these activities.

For the dinner party if your husband is willing to 100% clean the house , prepare the food, and manage the kids so all you have to do is sit through dinner AND you can excuse yourself early then IMO its reasonable for him to have the dinner party. However, if you expects you to engage the way he does or do all or even some of the work for something that you don't even want to hold then that it is not fair.

We have the same dynamic with MIL his mother. I actually do not mind when she stays, she is the least crazy of his relatives BUT she drives him crazy. We both agree on limiting visits because it is annoying to me to hear than both bickering about stupid stuff the entire time.

Your husband sound immature if he wants you to be the one to tell MIL no. He needs to man up and face his Mommy. I personally would not care whether she thought I was the bad guy or not. She was rude to invite herself for longer and I firmly believe that you should never care what a rude person thinks about you. Pushy people feed off others wanting to please or be liked to get their way. Don't let them manipulate you this way. [/quote]

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