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Seriously why would anyone work if you don’t have to. Your DH clearly enjoys the breadwinner mantle and that role it gives him. It sounds like the slog of a career job doesn’t fit your phase of life, so enjoy the good life you have been given. [/quote]

( :oops: this is turning into my free therapy session. I can be honest about stuff here that I would not confess in real life!)

I think my DH does not think too much about money at all or his role of breadwinner. He loves his job and is surprised that he is paid so well for it. When he comes home, he can immerse himself in family and home. He can compartmentalize very well. He knows we are taken care of, kids are taken care of, we have more than enough for needs and wants,  and then more than that, he does not sweat it.  Right now, he is in the basement, with blaring music and enjoying his own company, because kids are not here to yell him to keep it down.

I think one of the motivations that I did not list, for taking this job is my own persistent irrational sense of financial deprivation.  I think Oprah once said that, "There is a confidence in women  when they earn a paycheck and can support themselves".  I think, while I have my own money and I have DH's money, in someways, I may have gone back in time to see if that paycheck would offer me that confidence.  Somehow, I felt no elation when I got the paychecks. There was a deep sense of wasting precious time for getting money for something that I did not care about. The  phase of life when meeting the rent was an important accomplishment has passed. My paycheck has no value to my family. My presence does.  For those who need to work to make ends meet, there must get a great sense of  accomplishment and pride.  I got none of it.

I do agree that the slog of a full time career job will not fit this phase of my life. I also know that any new role will need to have both - meaningfulness and interest - and that will drive how I want to spend my time.  I just need to readjust myself to my new reality. My working now has to have some intrinsic value to me and this job is not it. [/quote]

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