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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also have a child with special needs, which are speech and language based.  He attends an inclusive SN pre-school with NT kids and kids who have much more profound needs.  Guess what - everyone there adopts an attitude of kindness and taking care of each other.  Couldn't you teach your children to try to be a bit more accommodating and kind?  These are your neighbors and he is a neighborhood child.  Try to take better care of each other.  He should not be bothering YOU, and that is a boundary issue for the care giver, but I think it is awful to teach your kids to avoid or ignore him - truly awful.  Have a conversation with them about inclusion and help them think of some ways they can all have fun. [/quote]
[b]Teaching children to be kind is important. However, don’t teach them to be inclusive at all costs. They are children and should be able to express and pursue  their wants and needs as well.[/b] [/quote]

+1.

To the above poster with the SN kid. I have a ton of empathy for you and your child, but I'm not totally with you on this one. Everyone should absolutely teach their kids to be kind and to try to accommodate all kids. [b]BUT, if a child is that disruptive it is not the other kids responsibility to put up with it no matter what.[/b] They also have a right to play in their own neighborhood with friends without being tormented. [/quote]

+1 I have a child with special needs and one without. A huge part of inclusion is also teaching children what social norms and rules are - because to truly be included in the world at large, kids like my youngest need to know the rules everyone else is playing by. Grandma and grandpa are either choosing to ignore or are blind to their grandson's needs, and that's sad because it's not helping him or anyone else. If he's struggling to interact with the neighbor kids and they want him to be included, they ought to be outside with him to guide him along/redirect as needed. Other kids should be kind, but it doesn't mean altering every game to meet this child's wishes and it also doesn't mean saying yes to playing all day, every day. True inclusion should also mean teaching children with and without special needs to understand and recognize boundaries and limits. [/quote]

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