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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also have a child with special needs, which are speech and language based.  He attends an inclusive SN pre-school with NT kids and kids who have much more profound needs.  Guess what - everyone there adopts an attitude of kindness and taking care of each other.  Couldn't you teach your children to try to be a bit more accommodating and kind?  These are your neighbors and he is a neighborhood child.  Try to take better care of each other.  He should not be bothering YOU, and that is a boundary issue for the care giver, but I think it is awful to teach your kids to avoid or ignore him - truly awful.  Have a conversation with them about inclusion and help them think of some ways they can all have fun. [/quote]
[b]Teaching children to be kind is important. However, don’t teach them to be inclusive at all costs. They are children and should be able to express and pursue  their wants and needs as well.[/b] [/quote]

+1.

To the above poster with the SN kid. I have a ton of empathy for you and your child, but I'm not totally with you on this one. Everyone should absolutely teach their kids to be kind and to try to accommodate all kids. BUT, if a child is that disruptive it is not the other kids responsibility to put up with it no matter what. They also have a right to play in their own neighborhood with friends without being tormented. [/quote]

Honestly I wish every child could attend a school like my child's.  It has taught me so much about what it really means to be inclusive.  Last week we went to a bowling party and all the kids were invited.  One of the kids has some severe SN and he was freaking out about the bowling and holding up the line.  It was an inconvenience for the children to wait for him to bowl.  But every one of those kids - ages 4 and 5 - calmly waited for the little boy to calm down.  They know that kid is different and has some challenges.  They are used to it.  Some of the five year olds encouraged him.  Now, there was a parent supporting him, so that makes a big difference and that is the missing link here, but I feel so so fortunate that my kid gets to go to this school.  Every little kid there was like - no big deal.  Fast forward, when these kids are nine and a child *shudder* throws a football across the street, maybe they will not freak out and exclude him like OP and her kids.  [/quote]

Now imagine that the boy was walking up as others were taking their turns. Snatching the ball away and rolling it across the main floor for fun and saying that he didn’t want to do bowling and wants to do something else. You can say whatever you want but I guarantee you and the kids would not be feeling so smug about being inclusive after that.

The boy isn’t taking more time to throw the ball, he’s stopping the others from playing in their own homes and neighborhoods with their own friends on their vacation.

Stop with the *shudder* nonsense and read and actually think about the situation OP is describing before you try to lecture others.[/quote]

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