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[quote=Anonymous]You can't keep punishing someone for the past or your relationship has no hope for the future. 
The car seat thing is over and done with. Move on.

The issue is he lies and feels he needs to. Why? 
Does he think you won't think his feelings are valid? 
Will you judge?
Will you steamrole?
Will you say he is wrong?

I find i get further with a compromise if i agree to something he wants. So, if DH wants the kids to stay up late Friday for a movie iwth him i will say 'sure!" and then later say "can we have the kids clean their bathrooms Saturday morning? I will take Larla and you take Larlo to ensure they are done to quality?" and 9/10 he is like "Sure" since i had just given him something he wants for the kids.

Try to approach from an open mind and say 'Hey, we aren't on the same page about some of these kid things but i would like to be. What do you think is a reasonable amount of time for the Ipad during the school week/weekend?' and then LISTEN. Don't say a word, don't interupt with facts adn statistics and ifs and buts. Just sit there and shut up. 
When he is finished don't comment on what he said or try to pick it apart. Just say "What you are saying is (and try to summerize)" then say, "I see your point and my position is a bit different from yours I see. Could we agree to meet in the middle on this?"

Or just agree with him. It won't kill you to allow pop on a weekend or something. Just be like" Hey, i see the kids had pop yesterday, can we push the water for them today?' 
See NO judgement. just stating facts and requests.[/quote]

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