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[quote=Anonymous]I don’t set an amount for having a child or 4 children or whatever amount you have. We made our decision based on age, married late, and finances and had one child.

Not every family prioritizes college. We happen to live in a region where College is a high priority for lots of families but NOVA has a higher percentage of the population with BA and advanced degrees. The expectation of most people on this board is that kids will go to college. I am sure that there are people posting here who do not have 529s or prepay for instate universities and expect that there kids will earn scholarships or take out loans. Not every parent sees it as their responsibility to pay for college for their children. My DH parents paid for most of his college but he had some loans. My parents paid for my college but I paid for graduate school. We are saving for our DS college and should have enough that he does not need loans. But I have friends with 7 kids and the kids are on their own for college. I have a friend with 2 kids and they were on their own for college. One child I know, different family, choose a military academy for college because they know that it will pay for college and medical school because her parents could not pay for college.

There are a good number of families out there with multiple kids who have not joined the pool and don’t take vacations because they have chosen to have a SAHP and multiple kids in our neighborhood. The one income is enough to pay the mortage, provide for the family in terms of food and clothes. But there is not a lot left over for vacations and other extras. the kids seem happy to me and are doing just fine.

Different families, different priorities. So I don’t think that there is a set income level for people to have kids. I would not want to have another chid if I could not provide them with food, clothes and a place to live but we all know that there are places were those basics are not a guarantee. So the idea that having a fourth kid, or third or second, is based on not wanting to diminish the type of vacations or extra curricular activities  or pay for college is more likely then not eye roll inducing for the vast majority of the country. [/quote]

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