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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm overweight. I'm not THRILLED about it and sometimes wish I was smaller, but like another PP on this thread, I'm not willing to make the extreme diet and lifestyle changes that would be required for me to lose the 25 pounds I could stand to lose quickly.

I've been carrying those 25 pounds around for about 5 years. Before that, I was up at 5am to go to the gym, eating salads I hated every day for lunch, never getting dessert and doing a variety of other things to maintain my size that were not fun or affirming. I was also married to someone who was a major fat-shamer, such that if I gained a couple pounds on vacation, he'd make concern troll comments about it ("It'll be nice to be home from vacation so you can get back into your routine" or "I'm just worried about your health" when his 5'7" wife weighed 145 pounds instead of 140 pounds).

When we got divorced, I stopped the 5am gym torture and the salads and ordered cake if I felt like eating cake. I gained like 10 pounds. TBH, I loved my body because I did not feel like I was being judged all. the. time. A couple years later when I met my now-DH, I got to experience what it was like to be married to a person who truly appreciated my body rather than just seeing things that should be corrected.

I'd love to lose the 25 pounds, but I'm in a place where I know that happiness and love are not dependent on me killing myself on the treadmill every morning at dawn or eating things I hate. [/quote]

OMG, this is my life, except for I am still married to the fat shamer and I will be going forward. He gets it from his mom, my MIL, who is a non-eater and extremely judgy of others. ALL value for women is tied to weight for that family, I think it's because being thin and tiny was the only thing she did that she really stood out at or got recognition for. Women achieving professionally or athletically was not valued in the southern culture she grew up in.

I go to orange theory 4-5 times a week, run, eat fine. I am strong and healthy. But I also drink beer, eat ice cream, eat and drink pretty much whatever I want. I am NOT skipping dinner for 25 years to be 10 pounds less than I am now. I would like to see my DH miss even one dinner and go hungry, I don't think he could handle it. They can take their expectations of women and shove them. Also, I don't want to have a flat ass! I don't think women over about 45 get that this is not attractive and not fashionable anymore. No one is jealous of a flat butt.[/quote]

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