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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The Director should have called you.  It was irresponsible for a counselor to put your daughter on the phone when she was hysterical without an adult to talk with you after.

That said, I would get my child.  They know they can call DH or me at any point and we are there for them.  It is an incredibly important lesson as they enter their teen years.  I was beyond stressed my [b]senior year in college[/b] with my workload and I called my mom hysterical at 10:00pm, and at 6:00am she was at my apartment and it was a 4 hour drive.  I will always be incredibly thankful because I just needed my mom.  [/quote]

You are so lucky to have a mom like that. I never could have relied on my mom like that and she was a single parent so I had no one else. I felt very alone a lot. I hope I can do better for my kids. [/quote]

Disagree.  The PP was 21-22 yo, and about to graduate college.  Calling Mom to vent?  Sure.  Mom offering advice and sympathy?  Absolutely.

Mom driving 4 hours in the middle of the night to . . . what?  Offer advice and sympathy in person?  That's excessive, counterproductive, and borderline co-dependent.  [/quote]

Yeah that’s insane. I really appreciate what my mom did in a similar situation which was listen to me in my hysteria during a late night phone call and then she checked up on me (call or text) the next few days to make sure I was hanging in there. Much more appropriate.[/quote]

The PP sounds like an enmeshed family situation.[/quote]

LOL.  I’m the original poster who told the college story.  Mind you, this was in ‘94 so I can say with confidence my mom visiting didn’t cause lasting damage nor did it mean I was overly dependent on my parents. I’m not sure what “an enmeshed family situation” is but we have a normal and healthy family who respect boundaries, but if one of us is really upset we will be there for each other. [/quote]

Maybe you're the exception to the rule.  I would not recommend this approach in general because it's a missed opportunity for kids to learn that parents don't have to swoop in every time a child is upset about their college workload.[/quote]

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