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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here-  I didn’t go get her last nite and yes, I’m completely frustrated that a counselor (she told me the camp director) gave her a phone to call. That was unacceptable. I have only my hysterical daughters pleas and nothing from leadership.
  I’m going to call the phone number she called from and ask for an adult to call me.
I think my daughter is just not a kid who enjoys overnight camps. I’m starting to think it’s just personality. The camp is well known and many many friend go- I’m not concerned with abuse or anything like that because she’s been homesick before (hence why he took a break from overnight camps).  Why she gets so homesick, I don’t get. Both of us work and travel so I feel like we don’t hover or over protect. But again, maybe just a personality thing.
  SO much great advice from posters but I have decided to try and get her to last until tomorrow.  I will try to pick her up extra early before the chaos so as to not embarrass her since I have a feeling she has been miserable all week.
  Great advice to sit down over ice cream and discuss after the fact. [/quote]

The camp situation could be many things, hard to know. I just want to kindly remind you that your kid getting homesick more easily than other kids or yourself/your spouse is not a failure of her character or your parenting. Like you said, maybe it's her personality--there's nothing wrong with being a homebody, just as there is nothing wrong with having wanderlust, it just is, now trying to make her feel bad about not wanting to do things that aren't in her comfort zone at this time--that seems like a good way to end up with the resentment that other posters said they had. I'm guessing she was (or seemed) excited when you signed her up because she senses your desire for her to do this and be more like you. A couple of your posts have a tone of disapproval about her not being like you in this regard, and that is what I'd be cautious of. Anyway, just something to think about.[/quote]

NP here.  I had terrible anxiety as a kid and would call hysterical from sleepovers, or even things that were only going on for a few hours, because I wanted to go home.  My parents didn't do anything to cause me to be that way, I think it was just how I was wired.  I'm sure you're doing everything right for her and in the end, I think keeping her there until the camp ends is the right call.  You'll get a better sense of what happened when she gets home.

FWIW, with all my crazy anxiety, my own daughter is the kind of kid who doesn't even look back to say bye when she gets in a new situation and she happily went off to camp for several weeks this summer (go figure!).  She told me there was a girl there who was so sad and miserable and she spent a lot of time trying to cheer her up.  So I'm sure there are also some kind campers who are looking out for her too.  [/quote]

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