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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. A few things that I wanted to point out:

- This thread has made me realize my jealously is a bigger issue than I thought. I've been in therapy on and off over the years, but it may be a good idea to start again.

- Growing up, I always felt like my Mom was loving and caring. It's only been the case in recent years that I've felt not prioritized. For what it's worth, I've talked to my sisters in the past about this, and they feel similarly, but for different reasons.

- To be honest, I'm proud of the work that my Mom does, and I know it's important, but I do sometimes feel (as other posters have mentioned) that she prioritizes her work over her family. What's gnawing at me in this situation is that I hadn't ever heard her mention this student until yesterday, and she only started with the "oh, I must see her play, it's so important," talk once I brought up that having dinner at 8:30 wouldn't work for us. It just sounds like she's more interested in making sure this student is happy as opposed to her own daughter.

- Another issue is that when DH and I go up to visit my parents, we'll do things on our own (ex. see High School friends of mine), but we always make an effort to work around my parent's schedule and spend time with them, and its frustrating that they can't do the same.

- It may be irrelevant, but this isn't a one time performance, this student has been in residence at this program for several months. [/quote]

OP, I am really trying to sympathize with you, but I just can’t. You can’t point to any actual wrongdoing on her part. She raised you and you’re out of the house, a married adult on your own. I’m struggling with how exactly you think you should feel prioritized, or what she should be doing differently. Rightly so, she has her own life.

As others said, you should make the performance a family event - how fun! Or just go celebrate your SIL’s birthday and see them the rest of the weekend. None of this is really a huge deal. [/quote]

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