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[quote=Anonymous]OP you need to be specific about what you want.  Saying you want him “to engage with the baby” isn’t going to get you what you need.  You need to find out home from him if he thinks your requests are unreasonable OR if he just dislikes tending to the baby or both.  My bet is that he thinks you’re home with the baby and doesn’t understand what the problem is.  I see where both of you are coming from.  I wouldn’t be that happy if my husband was at home with our kid, I went to work all day and after commuting I had an angry spouse handing me a child as soon as I walked in the door.  Especially when I know he was able to take some naps and had a few hours to himself during the day.  Also talk to your husband about your expectations when you return to work.

If you want a break after work you need to be specific that you can’t wait until 7 PM to get away from the baby.  You need to get away from the baby at 6 PM.  Either he needs to take the baby at 6 PM or you need to hire someone.  Hiring someone is X dollars an hour.  What does he want to do?  Make his male ego think he’s solving your problem.

You also need to get out of the house on the weekend.  Plan 2-3 hours away and only leave milk.  I can’t emphasize the importance of this.  The moms with husbands later on tend to be SAHMs who took on all of the work and never left their baby with their husband because who knows why.  They will tell you every excuse as to why they didn’t leave the baby.  Just do it.  Go and get a hair cut.  Go grab a coffee with a friend.

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