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[quote=Anonymous]My parents did this to me. We assumed they would eventually move, but we had hoped they would take a spring season to watch real estate, maybe stay with us for 1-2 months to drive around and check out towns they can afford and test the drive to our house. But no - they listed their house for sale 6 weeks after I announced my 2nd pregnancy.

I was terrified. They don’t have a lot of hobbies. They had lived in their hometown for 60 years and knew everyone. They had deep, long relationships from decades of volunteering at church. I was scared they would be at my house all the time and suffocate me.

It’s been great. We usually see them for a kid event or a meal on the weekend and 1 night during the week the pick my kids up from preschool and stay for dinner. Giving them a set activity each week - coming for dinner, picking up the kids, taking a kid to soccer, etc. has focused them. I don’t get pestered all the time to make plans because they have “their day” with the kids to look forward to. Instead of letting them bulldoze me, I created the framework for them to plan their week around and it has been great. They are less intrusive and more helpful than I imagined/ feared. Even my husband who was a bit apprehensive often remarks how helpful they are. As someone else mentioned - seeing them often for short amounts of time is so much better than long visits. Also because we see them all the time, there is no pressure to have all of us there. Sometimes my husband does his own thing or I will have them take 1 kid while we hang out with the other and all meet up for lunch. [/quote]

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