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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.. thanks for your responses. I know I’m being irrational I just wish I had family support in the way my SIL and BIL have but you are all right - I should not expect anything and it is my responsibility. I know this but wish I also had access to free child care like they do.  ILs are already committed to caring for my nephew so it would cause drama to ask them to watch ours instead. I’m just a bit jealous and it’s not right. I agree with you all. We are saving all we have to pay for daycare and maternity leave over the next year. [/quote]

You don't have kids, so I'm unclear why you are upset you don't have access to childcare.  [/quote]

Again I know I’m in the wrong here- it’s my issue that I’m jealous of their help but we want to try but can’t yet in order to save as much as possible. I was just triggered by hearing how they get to buy another car (their third) and tractor because of all the money that are saving from no child care from grandparents. Not my business but it still sucks a bit  [/quote]
Maybe they are also working and earning money to pay for what they  have.
You do not have a childcare problem, you have a jealousy problem. You need to grow up. [/quote]

She’s jealous  as you would be if you parents handed on of your siblings 25k a year and left you high and dry... similar to inheritance issues [/quote]

OP doesn't have a baby!  She isn't even pregnant!  Her MIL is currently watching the grandchild that actually exists, and OP is upset that...honestly, I don't even know what the OP is upset about.  Even if the in-laws had an obligation to be fair, it can't be that they shouldn't provide any or full-time childcare to the BIL on the off chance that OP has a baby someday.  She won't even ask, because it might "cause drama."  She is resentful and hurt because her MIL is currently taking care of a real baby and not a nonexistent potential future baby.  How is this unfair?  If the in-laws make a commitment, then yes, they might not be able to also care for OP's someday baby.  And yes, it would be inappropriate to demand that they stop so they can babysit your baby.  But we don't know how long the in-laws will care for the nephew.  We don't know if they would offer some help to OP and her spouse (even if it's not as much as they would want).  [/quote]

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