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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know if I’d get out right now, but I’d definitely have a bag packed, valuables stored offsite, and know where a weapon is in each room. I’d also consult a lawyer and find out whatever you need to know in terms of custody of your younger kid and I’d be seeing a councilor to help navigate the change.. I’d also have husband spell out rules plus consequences (no point in having rules without them) and I’d insist on making sure kid knows rules...no violence, help around the house, have a job, etc  and have him sign a contract saying this is formX time, these are the rules, this is how he contributes to the household and his future, this is how much money he needs to save to move out in X time etc.

I’d play hard ball or get out. [/quote]

Don’t get a weapon. Get a dog.

It’s fairly easy for a weapon to be used against you - especially in s situation like this where stepmom just wants the violence to stop and stepson is super angry, on drugs and has no self control. A dog will sense the threat and take him down. Maybe even scare him.
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Op here. Ack! I was thinking of identify possible weapons so they could be secured or avoided. I got rid of a utility knives, moved tools to the locked garage, etc. [/quote]

Would that have prevented any of the violence against his mom?

A dog probably would have. Labs are great do this.
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OP here. I have a dog. But, I also want to be clear that I did say it all short of person on person physical violence. I’m not naive that things escalate, but it wouldn’t be right to give the impression that he has been physically violent to her person. Just property at this point. (Not trying to minimize, but It’s the truth at this point)[/quote]

I get it OP. My point was that [b]even the most drugged out addict is the LEAST likely to be violent with his own mother. Whatever his boundaries are with his mom, it will be worse with you.[/b] If he was breaking stuff out of anger at his mom, it would be reasonable that he would do worse around you.

So, my question remains: Do you think any of the precautions you took would have prevented the type of violent behavior that happened at his mom’s house?  Probably not, right? So why would it have an effect at your house?

PS. I hope you have a medium to large breed dog. Just sayin

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If it's mental illness, that's not true.  It's very often the people they are closest to who are most at risk.  I was never in fear of my physical safety around my step-son, rages and all, but I always worried that he would kill his father. [/quote]

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