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[quote=Anonymous]OP is fine.  Go to one of the counselling sessions with DD and use 20 min. of the session to discuss a plan for what to do when you need to travel.  DD is old enough to understand your concerns about her not being left alone.

Then, OP, you may need to (a) have a discussion with ex wife about changing the custody arrangement based on the current circumstances, and/or (b) go to court to adjust the custody and support arrangement.  Maybe a counselor could work with you and DD and ex wife.  Perhaps DD's current counselor could invite the mom/exwife to a session where counselor helps explain that DD needs some time/space to process mom's behavior.

Bottom line:  If DD doesn't want to stay with the mother, then I don't think you can make her.  BUT, you can do things to deal with the practical aspects (i.e. where is DD going to stay when you are away?), as well as the long term relationship aspects with the mom.

Focus first on solving this specific logistical issue.  Then, make a priority of resolving the longer term relationship with mom issue.  You can't really resolve it yourself, but you can help empower your DD to deal with it, and you can deal with your side -- which is the current agreement needs to be changed.  [/quote]

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