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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If we had to put the time and money into getting a marriage license that you need to get a divorce, people would think much more carefully about getting married. It’s doable on a whim now. At least a 30 day waiting period with a mandatory 8 hour course on sexuality, finances, and child rearing.[/quote]

That's a great way to increase the number of people who don't marry. Especially low income people who don't get time off. So, if you're trying to put the death knell in marriage, esp for people without a lot of resources, then great plan.

Personally, I didn't find I needed to be nanny stated like this when my husband and I decided we were ready to get hitched. I'm surprised you think you did.[/quote]

That's not really the problem. For example, we did the Catholic "marriage preparation" course before we got married. It required about the level of effort the PP describes, and it covered a lot of different subjects. We did it on a weekend, and lots of other people did it, too.

The real problem with any premarital course is that it will occur when you're on track to get married and you're both feeling all lovey-dovey, and neither of you can imagine things getting so bad that you'd ever get divorced. Nothing can prepare you for the post-honeymoon period of marriage other than actually living it. [/quote]

I'm the PP and I am an atheist, so I was not required to go to any marriage classes whatsoever.

How about we don't let people marry until they've lived together for at least one full year, so they aren't at that stage where no one thinks the other person ever farts of fails to do the diehes instead. They can see if the other person holds down a job and pays their share of the bills. If you want to put hurdles in the way of marriage that might actually help determine the relationship's longevity, I'd argue for that.[/quote]

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