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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is your kid.  All those people who say my kid won't or doesn't does.

They are smoking, they are drinking, they are vaping, they are having sex.

Remember what you were doing at their age and realize things are happening a lot faster these days.  Meet the other kids and meet their parents and be friends with them even if you don't like them.

Don't stock the beach house during beach week with bases and cases of beer.  [/quote]

I was NEVER that kid. I never drank, smoked, did drugs, and was barely kissing boys senior year. I still have never done a drug or smoked a cigarette a day in my life. This is something people tell themselves to make them feel better about their kid who IS doing these things. [/quote]

Do you think you were NEVER that kid due to great parenting?  I've also never done drugs or smoked, and I didn't drink until I was 21.  But that was just my personality, and had nothing to do with my parents.[/quote]

NP. I think t's a little of both, but do agree personality has a lot to do with it, and your peer group to a degree.   I didn't drink until college, tried weed a couple times in grad school, had sex way later than most of my peers.  I was an eldest child, quiet, and had a good group of friends in high school but my closest were also the sliighty nerdy good-two-shoes type.  My middle sister was much more of a rebel, struggled a bit socially while desperately wanting to be popular, and definitely engaged in more risky behavior in high school.  She was a great liar and managed to throw a house party while my parents were out of town.  My youngest brother was more in between us, he drank some in high school but was generally pretty responsible.  He ran with kids who were pretty motivated academically but not quite the nerds.

And you know what- we're all pretty well-adjusted adults.  My DH and his sister never drank until they were 21 (SIL pretty much abstains entirely) and DH does attribute it to how strict his parents were.  Maybe, but I can see how my SIL is raising her kids in that same strict manner and how her son is starting to rebel against it.  I think one thing I would do differently than my parents did is just TALK to my kids about this stuff beyond the "don't drink, don't smoke, don't have sex" that we got.  I want them to feel comfortable enough to call me if they get in trouble. [/quote]

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