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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We didn’t post anything because DC wasn’t posting anything. Not that I post a lot, but this could be considered biggish news. Why wasn’t DC posting? Because DC got into her dream school (top ivy) and the same school rejected a lot of her friends. Boasting on social media didn’t seem kind. [/quote]

OP here. This is where I have a problem. Are you supposed to never post on social media any of your happy news if it may make another person feel bad, ever? This is sort of what you are saying -- DC didn't post because others who also applied did not get in. It's not boasting if you politely share and then move on. It's boasting if you are rubbing it in their faces. Some schools here in DC actually post where each graduate is going (G Prep, Anslem, etc). Is that considered boasting? Are the kids that wear the sweatshirts from their school of choice boasting each year when the school snaps that shot and places it all over their social media in May each year?

Most private schools here do that (look at recent school photos) and somehow, we don't usually consider it bragging. So would you tell your daughter to not wear her sweatshirt for the pic (or rather to sit it out) because other classmates did not get into that school also? I know that I wouldn't.[/quote]

I mean, yeah, it's all kind of gauche. I wouldn't tell my kid not to participate in school promotion that the kid wants to (and all those private school posts are just advertisement for the school), but I wouldn't facilitate it myself. It's one thing for your child to be excited and share where they're attending college (or to keep it quiet because they think it's obnoxious braggadocio), but it's another for the parents to promote the attendance for their kids. It's a different world with social media, but when I got into a top college I never wore any school apparel or told anyone unsolicited where I was going. I still think school sweatshirts are ungraceful unless you're cheering on the team at a sporting event.[/quote]

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