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NP with a very difficult baby who is now a difficult baby-toddler. I SAH. There have been a number of days over the past 17 months DH has come home and I have said if this child was watched by anyone other than me, his mother, he would have been left in a corner to cry while the caretaker checked out completely because he was just SO difficult. ALL DAY LONG. I used to work, there were days I used to phone it in. I can see how an easy-ish baby might fare the same in any childcare situation, but my child would definitely have gotten some phoned-in care very regularly if he was with a nanny or daycare. On those days I would remind myself that I am his mother, I can't phone it in, and I would regroup and find the energy to try to deal with whatever firestorm was currently happening. I can't imagine someone just doing a job would be able to do the same.[/quote]

Another NP.  I totally agree.  I have two kids and both of them are very different personalities.  They would not have been the happiest in daycare situation just because they are not good about following the schedule of the daycare. [/quote]

Please.  So many parents think they have a uniquely difficult child.  Babies cry.  Babies want to be held.  You should fire your nanny if they leave your child to cry in a corrner.  [/quote]

Spoken like someone with an easy kid! Count your blessings, lady. [/quote]

You're assuming all mothers are better than all nannies / other care providers because of what.....love?  I have a difficult child and my loving nanny who has been with 8 different children from birth to 5 has endlessly more patience, perspective, and skill in dealing with him.  I love spending time with him but would certainly not do as good as a job as the nanny does if it was all day every day.  Not all women are built for full time child care just like not all women are built for doing any particular job all day every day.  And that's ok - we all are working to provide our kids with safe and loving environments and no parent is going to make or break their kids life by staying home or not unless they're an abusive parent and the kid is better off with less time with them![/quote]

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