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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It took work to make a network of SAHM friends.

It took a lot longer to adjust to not working than I had thought it would - figuring out what you can get done in a day or a week, all of that.

I was surprised at how jealous I was of people with either family help or paid help. I had not been jealous of anyone when I was a working mom with childcare. I had moved to a new place and had no network to find sitters I trusted. I could not go on field trips with my older child, volunteer at school etc very easily. I was super jealous of people with parents nearby.  [/quote]

I forgot - the other thing that was unexpected was how great the needs for volunteering were at my kids' schools.  It became huge and was like an unpaid part time job. MAny working moms got sucked in to it too, it wasn't just me.  Now I am not volunteering except for the occasional field trip because I got myself completely burned out. I think this is pretty typical of moms who enjoyed working when they worked and then who became SAHMs. I did go back to work part time for awhile but logistically it was a very hard transition and my kids really suffered. Also financially it was pretty much costing us money for me to work part time.  :( I really miss what I used to do but it is not feasible to go back to it while I still have a child in elementary school.  I am working on changing careers now, and hoping to have it off the ground in the next 2 yrs.

I did not really take in to account the ageism in my industry and while I knew that I was stepping out and it would be hard to go back, I didn't take in to account that I would be going back at the time that people my age are getting phased out.  So that sucks.  We moved many years ago to an area where ageism is much worse than where I had built my career originally.  [/quote]

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