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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone thinks it is axiomatic that the kids are going to be "happy" if hostile, fighting parents divorce. I disagree. My parents had a very toxic relationship - cheating, shouting, throwing things, hitting each other - and I was still miserable and traumatized for years after the divorce. Not least because my mom never sought therapy, she just remained this barely repressed volcano of rage for the whole rest of her life.[/quote]

so ... you think it would have been better if they stayed together?  where exactly do you think a relationship as volatile as that leads? it's not pretty. [/quote]

I actually have a basis for comparison. My father remarried and had more kids. He remained the same man he was when he was married to my mom - violent, an adulterer - but for whatever reason his second wife put up with him until the kids were out of the house. So my half-siblings had the experience I would have had if my parents had stayed together. It is not obvious that they are worse off than are myself and my full siblings. It was pretty much "get raised by one toxic abuser or two". It wasn't pretty if the parents stayed together, and it wasn't pretty if they split up.[/quote]

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