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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you suffering from a dead bedroom at home?
How long?
What do you think the underlying cause is?

Curious to hear all perspectives M & F
Those who are desperate
Those who are the dead
Have you given up?
Those who have considered/acted upon/thinking about acting upon the situation....[/quote]

Married for 10 years, three young children, the youngest is under a year.  We had a dead bedroom for 2+ years, which was a combination of low T (which I knew about), and his cheating, probably (which I didn't).  It was pretty tough in the beginning to feel my husband doesn't respond to me sexually, tough not to be touched. And then it suddenly got easier.  What helped was that I just disengaged from allowing him any power over how I felt about myself sexually.  It's like, there are thousands of men out there who don't want to sleep with me, and it doesn't get me down, so why would this one? He can want it, not want it, whatever.  I'm my own person, and my sexuality is my own, and how I feel is entirely up to me. I don't use the frequency of sexual intercourse to measure my sexiness or my attractiveness in a global sense. He is similarly on his own trip, and it has nothing to do with me.

We're back to once a week now, quite amiably. It doesn't change how I feel and if it suddenly went away, I'd be fine too.[/quote]

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