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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dh regularly comes home from 'work diners' or a 'drink with a client' and seems to me impaired.  Not drunk, but effected enough that I can tell he's been drinking: he walks just a bit differently, the cadence and tone voice is different. His reactions to things said in a conversation are bit more exaggerated.  He just does things differently. And I can smell it.  When I call him on it, he gets very defensive and says he only had 2 drinks and he was eating, so he must be ok and I must be paranoid and/or hysterical and/or overreacting.

He has already had 2 dui  in the state of MD so if he gets one more, he's screwed.  And, he is a gov't contractor who has a very high clearance (how he got, I'll never know).

I am very worried he will hurt someone one day and fear for that person but also for what it will do to our family.  He would most likely go to jail, lose his clearance, thus his job and livelihood, nevermind that we could well be sued by someone who he hurts.

So, yes, the "2 drinks is good" rule of thumb is NOT good for him.  IF that's how much he's really having.  But I'm pretty sure he's lying about that, too.[/quote]

He sounds like a liar and a menace to society.  I hope they take his license away for good before he kills someone![/quote]

buy him a portable breathalyzer.  tell him you are perfectly ok with him having a drink with a client, but that you cannot afford any more DUIs.  So if he blows over a .08, call you and you will come pick him up or he can call a cab.[/quote]

You don't have  a lot of experience with problem drinkers, do you? He could call a cab any time. But he won't b/c that means he needs to get his car the next day, which is a pain. Plus the cost of the cab and the fact that he thinks he will 'lose face' w/ whomever he is with by admitting he's had too much to drive.  And I'm not waking up or keeping up my 3 kids under 8 to go pick their drunk daddy at 10, 11 or midnight all the time (this at least once a week).[/quote]

I get hammered all the time, and I call a cab or call my wife.[/quote]

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