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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dh regularly comes home from 'work diners' or a 'drink with a client' and seems to me impaired.  Not drunk, but effected enough that I can tell he's been drinking: he walks just a bit differently, the cadence and tone voice is different. His reactions to things said in a conversation are bit more exaggerated.  He just does things differently. And I can smell it.  When I call him on it, he gets very defensive and says he only had 2 drinks and he was eating, so he must be ok and I must be paranoid and/or hysterical and/or overreacting.

He has already had 2 dui  in the state of MD so if he gets one more, he's screwed.  And, he is a gov't contractor who has a very high clearance (how he got, I'll never know).

I am very worried he will hurt someone one day and fear for that person but also for what it will do to our family.  He would most likely go to jail, lose his clearance, thus his job and livelihood, nevermind that we could well be sued by someone who he hurts.

So, yes, the "2 drinks is good" rule of thumb is NOT good for him.  IF that's how much he's really having.  But I'm pretty sure he's lying about that, too.[/quote]

Yikes, I'd be pretty worried about losing everything and would be checking into a way to separate my assets from his so if he kills someone I wouldn't lose my savings as well. So sorry he's put you in that situation!!

My family has been affected by alcohol many times. My mom divorced my dad when I was about 2 or 3 because he had become a heavy drinker. They had been married about 18 yrs then. Eventually he drank himself to death when I was 14. He was really a HEAVY drinker though...we're talking a bottle of whisky (not sure what size, I was just a kid) every night (unless he passed out first.)

When I was about 9 or 10 both my sister and step sister were passengers in vehicles hit by drunk drivers. The accidents were 2 months apart. My sister had a cut on her skull that went clear to the bone (from hitting the rear view mirror. She wasn't wearing a seat belt so really she is lucky not to have been killed.) She also had a broken leg and maybe an arm or something. She recovered. My step-sister was hit by a drunk driver w/ a suspended license. After the accident he went over to look in the car, thought he killed my step sister and then ran off. My step sister had a broken brain stem and was in a coma for a few weeks. 25+ yrs later her life is still a mess. Her husband divorced her (probably would have happened anyway to be fair) and because of the brain stem issue her brain never functioned normally again so she really has the sense and reason of a 12 yr old. She would attract all the wrong men, one of whom went to jail for molesting her two boys (who then went to live with their dad) and she made 2 babies w/ the child molester and those kids are in their late teens/early 20's (not sure, haven't seen them for literally years and years) and they are a complete mess. It's really sad the chain of events that can be set in motion by having a few drinks for your own pleasure. I have NEVER EVER had a drink because I've seen the chaos that it can bring and also knowing my family history of alcoholism, i'm not willing to risk addiction. A buzz simply isn't worth it.[/quote]

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