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[quote=Anonymous]This post reminds me of myself 25+ years ago! But now I am a 46 year old with plenty of good friends :)

I went to an intense SLAC & am an introvert. On paper, the school *sounds* like it would facilitate friendships, but I was too busy studying & was of a lower SES than a lot of the others, who all seemed to know each other from boarding school/hunter college HS/Stuyvesant/Bronx science/Newton North & Newton South. I just never found “my people.”

My only lasting friend from college is my old college boyfriend - our families will still hang out together sometimes, and we reminisce. Since we have know each other so long, no one bothers to put up a front. So, my old boyfriend SEEMED to have lots of friends in college (he was way “cooler” than me - athlete, came from some money, fancy boarding school) but he says that he was also kind of lonely, too, and felt like his college friends were fake. His wife also went to our college & she said her friendships felt superficial, too. But if you had seen them in 1992, they both seemed to have so many friends. My husband went to an intense STEM school & also had no good friends in college - he mostly hung out with 2 kids he knew from high school!

I found it far, far easier to make meaningful  friends in grad school, at work, with neighbors, or with my kids’ friends’ parents. I totally understand your concern, but it will probably be ok. while I think it’s great that some kids have amazing college friendships, some of us did not, and today we are successful and (mostly) functional adults - who do have some good friends.[/quote]

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