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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is in 2nd grade? What does mean girl behavior look like at this age? Things like not inviting the whole class to a birthday party? These kids aren’t on social media, so it seems like the teachers, parents and school could get a handle on this behavior pretty quickly. [/quote]

Even in 2nd grade kids can be very savvy with relational aggression. It's impressive (but obviously not in a good way). And because many teachers and parents think it doesn't happen until later, they overlook it or attribute situations as being "misunderstandings". There is a book called something like- Little Girls Can Be Mean (I don't remember the exact title). It's interesting and offers strategies to parents and kids.

OP, if you've tried different avenues and don't feel like you and your daughter are being supported by the school, you should develop an exit strategy.

Good luck.[/quote]

+1 And eventually the "misunderstandings" morph somehow into blaming the victim.  Relational aggression is insidious.  It is learned at home from mothers and older sisters, and once it begins in a class it can be very hard to extinguish.  Because the mothers use relational aggression themselves in their adult female relationships it can be very hard to get the mothers involved in a positive and proactive way to help resolve the issues.  Schools can be reluctant to address the issue themselves because they don't want to offend several tuition-paying parents - it can be easier to sacrifice one girl versus several.  This is short-sighted on the school's behalf but most school administrators and counselors aren't used to taking the long view.  If the school is not actively helping you resolve the situation then you really need to consider moving unless somehow the situation is going to change (like the mean girl moving herself).[/quote]

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