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[quote=Anonymous]A weird perspective from the other side of this:  DS did all the work of applying to schools, found reaches, targets, likelies he loved on all levels (including several discussed by OP and posters).  He ended up getting into most, including what was ostensibly his first choice --a reach SLAC.  But I almost think we went overboard finding schools he loved because it was GRUELING for him to decide, he ended up going for--at the last minute May 1-- the reach which was the highest ranked of the group.  But now he's genuinely struggling with a kind of buyer's remorse.  He loved his "likelies" and feels like he couldn't really choose one because he got a good deal at a "better" (more prestigious) school so now he's not really sure he made the decision truly on his own accord.  He's wondering if he could still change is mind, if the scholarships would still be there for him if he did.  It's probably just that this is the first time he's had to make a big decision and he's grieving the paths not taken, but it's a little hard for him to have worked so hard to get into a top school (that really does seem like a good fit for him) and mainly feeling kind of letdown, depleted and anxious. Hopefully this too shall pass and he'll re-appreciate his good fortune ...but I  think he's also experiencing the hamster wheel of strong students seeking high-ranking schools, and this glimpse of possibly getting off of it, but then deciding not to, --it's done a bit of a number on him.  We're just watching now how his mindset evolves.  I initially told myself, let's give this a week and revisit.  It's been a week now, now I'm thinking give it another week...But I'm wishing we played down the 'finding tons of schools he loves' thing--but then had he not gotten into good ones we'd be in a different situation...[/quote]

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