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[quote=Anonymous]I always wanted a daughter and every once in a blue moon I still feel a bit wistful about it.

Still, I love having 2 boys, now ages 21 and 16. I love their brotherly relationship--I do think it differs somewhat from the relationship between sisters or between a brother and sister. I kind of like being the only female in the house--hard to describe, but it's almost like I have a special status that I don't think I'd otherwise have. I feel close to both my boys, but my eldest is particularly attached to me. He likes spending time with me and apparently speaks glowingly about me to others. He's quite independent and self-confident but still texts a few times a week from college, just to say hi or tell me something funny, and he recently asked me where DH and I think we will retire because he wants to live near us in adulthood. (DS1 is also very close to both sets of grandparents; he visits/calls/emails them regularly without any prompting from me or DH.) My younger son is not quite as attached to us or grandparents, but still is very loving.

FWIW, my DH is a very dutiful son, checking in on his elderly parents several times a week, doing their grocery shopping, assisting them as needed. His sister is not close to MIL/FIL at all--visits a few times a year though she lives only about 3 hours drive away. I think I'm a great DD to my parents (if I do say so myself, LOL), and I feel very close to them emotionally, but I live 500 miles away. My brother OTOH lives 5 miles from our parents and sees them very frequently. They have a close and loving relationship.

Don't despair, OP. It will be just as wonderful to raise your boys as it would have been to raise a girl. Different, maybe, but no less wonderful. But I think it's important to recognize that much of the reason why it would have been different to raise a girl is that she would have been a different *person* from the 2 little people you have, not because she would have been a different sex. And please do consider whether this might be PPD.

Congrats on your wonderful boys. [/quote]

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