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[quote=Anonymous]Yes you are wrong.

OP, the nicest context I can give you is that you are pregnant and hormonal.  The worst context is that you are the most conceited and self-centered person I have met in a long time.

The teacher invited your nanny TO APPLY.  She is a good employee.  She knows that the school needs more teachers and she sees a competent teacher who is only working part-time who might be interested in more full time work, so she invites her to apply.  She is informing a person working part-time about a full-time position that may pay her more income.  In general, working as a nanny is probably more lucrative than working in daycare, but that assumes that you are working similar hours.  In this case, working full-time for a daycare may pay more than working part-time as a nanny.  Or it could be better for her if they offer benefits to the daycare staff, like health insurance (in case you don't pay for that for your nanny).  She did not cross a line.  She isn't lobbying your nanny to apply. she informed your nanny that ther ewa.  Crossing the line would be after telling her about the position, then if she doesn't apply, lobbying her in subsequent visits to reconsider and apply for the job and if the job is offered, lobbying her to take the job and quit from your family with little notice.  If this job pays more money or offers more benefits, then you should be happy for her to get more than you can afford to pay her in either wages or benefits.

Frankly, describing a nanny leaving for another job as a traumatic experience for child is just completely overboard.  If and when your nanny leaves and if your child is upset about it, then it is your job as a parent to use it as a teaching experience to learn to cope with loss.  Seeing this action in such a completely myopic perspective that it is bad because it would be traumatic for your daughter is just completely self-centered and egotistical.  It is basically saying that only you and your child's lives matter; the nanny's life does not matter.  Are you planning to keep your nanny employed until she is ready to leave voluntarily or retire?  No?  Then you don't get to control when she hears about or considers other jobs.  It isn't about you or your child.  It's about the nanny doing what is right for her.  As someone else put it so well, you don't own her.[/quote]

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