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[quote=Anonymous]You have two complaints about your DH, one valid, one not.

Your first complaint is that he won't carry the mental load of making sure that all sorts of things that you think are important are done to your exact specifications, which includes micromanaging the help. He may not think all of those things are important, they may only be important to you, and he may be right. Even if he isn't right, if you want everything done in a particular way, that's something you need to do yourself, or accept that your priorities are elsewhere, in leaning in to your career.

The other complaint is that he thinks it is not manly to be a dad attending mom events. You're right to be mad about that one, it's some ridiculous bullshit and your DH is wrong on that. As a breadwinning dad, I'm almost embarrassed by the inordinate amount of credit that I get for doing very simple things like showing up at the school a few times a year during my workday. Not only are the moms at the school nice to me and make remarks like "I wish I could get my husband to show up," but I also earn goodwill from the women who work with me by showing that our talk about work-life balance isn't lip service. [/quote]

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