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[quote=Anonymous]OP saddens me.

I am sorry you had a tough time with your husband and his illness and death sound awful and compounded by the bad behavior of your stepdaughter and his ex wife.

It is evident you are angry.  You haven't really shown anything that tells me you have a right to be after so long (was there violence?).

Your stepdaughter had only her mother as a role model and her mother clearly was also angry.

What is the goal of perpetuating this cycle of anger?

Forgive her.  You don't need to be her friend but your son's sake, and equally for your sake you need to forgive her and move on.  She was a teenager at the time.  None of us deserve to be judged forever for our teenage years.

You don't need to be her friend OP, or even have a real relationship.  But you need to forgive her.  And then respond on social media.  Just be courteous.  If she asks for money, or is terrible, ignore.  But give her a chance as she is now an adult. And if this one fails, give her another in 5 years if she asks for it.

And you may want to think about therapy for yourself.  You need to stop being angry for your son's sake and live the life you can, even if it wasn't what you wanted or deserved.[/quote]

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