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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Paying that much was your decision. Own it.[/quote]

Op here. It’s not about the money at all. [/quote]

Really?  I copied your OP below, and bolded all the references to money.  Which is pretty much the whole thing.

[quote]I was married 10 years ago at 23. Dh and I had dated for 5 years and had a [b]lovely wedding that cost us 45k[/b] in DC. We [b]skimped on a lot for ourselves but went all out on food, alcohol and venue for our 200 guests[/b] (mostly close family). I think no one expected it to be a nice wedding. No one helped us plan, no one threw us a shower, no one came wedding dress shopping. [b]Dhs parents ended up paying for the rehearsal dinner[/b] but we didn’t know that beforehand so it was [b]only $200 for pizzas[/b] in our house (we [b]planned what we could afford [/b]and [b]I couldn’t afford 2k for maggianos[/b]). [b]My parents gave us 15k[/b] afterwards which we were so grateful for. But [b]my parents have told everyone over and over they paid for my entire wedding[/b]. I feel like every time they say that [b]it diminishes the 30k of my own money[/b] that I paid while eating ramen for years.

I have since thrown 4 showers for our siblings and cousins and have been to at least 9 family weddings.. My mom is nagging me to throw another shower for a cousin getting married this year. I’m just so annoyed at it all. My MIL has been spending all her weekends helping a different cousin with her wedding crafts. MIL makes elaborate grooms cakes for all her family’s weddings. [b]They completely paid for their daughters weddings and threw them showers[/b]. [/quote]
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