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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They gave you twice what you needed for a lovely wedding and reasonably think they covered it. Admitting you went insanely overboard won’t help anything.

And before I get accused of not knowing what weddings cost I had a wonderful top shelf liquor open bar wedding 7 years ago. [/quote]

Op here. You think we could have had a wedding for 250 for 7,500? With open bar? That’s what my open bar cost. It was $30 a person. But yes, I had the wedding I wanted. I’m upset about familial involvement. I have a large close family. Dhs is even closer and is also large. His family thought my parents should pay for everything and were upset all their coworkers and neighbors weren’t invited. We invited family (cousins too) and only a few friends. [/quote]

Ah, so it’s now 250 people and before it was 200. What’s truth? You need to get over this. [/quote]

Also, HIS parents thought YOUR parents should pay for everything?  AND that they should get to invite all their neighbors and co-workers?

Look, YOU chose to have a big, expensive wedding.  No one forced you to invite 250 people and have a full dinner and open bar and whatever else.  It was the wedding that YOU wanted.  And clearly, it *is* about costs, at least in part, or you wouldn't have mentioned the dollar figures.  Your parents came, yes?  They contributed to the cost of your wedding, yes?  Why would anyone else help you plan?  Did you ask them to help?  Did you ask them to come dress shopping with you?  (Didn't your bridesmaid(s) do that?)  Did they refuse to help, or did they just not offer?

I'm sorry you didn't get a wedding shower, but it sounds like people were just not thinking (including your own attendants), not that it was some kind of snub, and it was ten years ago, and you need to let it go.  If you want to host showers for family members, do it.  If you don't, just say you're not up for hosting this time.  [/quote]

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