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[quote=Anonymous]I know a mix--two people I know would have liked a second, but had secondary fertility issues. But at least half a dozen couples I know, including myself, had one intentionally, for a variety of reasons--finances, time, personality, etc. I think there's still a lot of pressure--quite overt sometimes--to have a second so as to "give your child a sibling," and I suspect that a lot of people who would have been happy with one were consciously or subconsciously motivated by the sense that you're "supposed" to have more than one. That can take the form of the fear that only child are, in Lauren Sandler's phrase, [i]lonelyselfishmaladjusted[/i], (I also recommend her book, by the way, which I think takes a very evenhanded look at the statistics and experiences of only children and their parents), or that they would be depriving their child of something s/he was entitled to. And some people, of course, genuinely want more kids. [/quote]
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