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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In your case, you need to hire your village.  Roster of babysitters, home health aides, teenage mother's helpers if need be etc.   We have family a 4 hour drive away, but they've bailed me out so many times when our nanny or I got sick, for which I am truly grateful.[/quote]

+1  Pay the money for hired help now.  You can continue to work on your social network, but when the going gets rough, most people depend on family rather than friends.[/quote]

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Op, you were already in no village situation, but chose to have a second child. It doesn't take a village - first and foremost it takes a responsible adult to make those decisions and plan ahead. If you can't afford hiring out some of the necessary support and can't be near family who are willing to help - then don't have another child till you can. The math is very basic.  You sound like you need a lot of babying yourself. [b]Why can't you take a taxi from a hospital? It's a simple thing to do and doesn't have to be an ask to a friend. Unless you're trying to save $ on a cab ride, in which case[/b] - why don't you save on care packages and birthday lunches and just pay for your own necessities?

If a close friend asked for a ride or to babysit her children I would frankly offer to pay for it in the nicest way I can, but am very unlikely to actually do it for her. Because there is a way to get it done without making me the household labor.[/quote]

Taking a cab from the hospital after being ill really sucks. I take it you haven't experienced it? I don't think it's the $$ that OP is worried about here.  It would be nice to feel like you are supported. I don't blame OP for feeling the way she does.  I also understand that people are busy, etc.  People are also very self-absorbed and just don't know how to reach out to someone anymore unless it's liking thier post

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I think it should be the husband's duty to help OP out because he's her spouse. What is the point of being married when you can't rely on your spouse?????[/quote]

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