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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. I don't really care about control over scheduling, or who spends what holiday with who. I do care about control over my living space and that is one thing that scares me. I'm really not sure what to do, dating wise. I've always wanted to get married and now I am thinking, maybe that should not be my goal anymore, given how complicated the lives and finances so many men are.[/quote]

IMHO the only real reason to marry is to have kids. I would rethink the marriage thing and also [b]stop dating anyone with kids at home based on your responses.[/b]  Your space, your life will include a relationship with these kids.  While you say you don’t care about schedules...those schedules will impact your life.  Your spouse/partner is will not be able to go on vacation with you or attend a wedding. He has his kids. Shopping, cooking, laundry, cleaning all impacted by the sheer number of people.  If your an introvert....it will impact you greatly.  [/quote]

I don't get that impression from her responses. She seems more concerned about the living arrangement than the schedule. If she continues dating the guy and finds the scheduling problems intolerable, then no she should not get married to him.

"Your spouse/partner is will not be able to go on vacation with you or attend a wedding. He has his kids."

Yes, he will be able to go on a vacation with you and attend a wedding. His schedule is a known quantity. Plan your vacations for when his ex has custody. If the wedding you want to attend is known far enough in advance, and it falls on a day when he has custody, then he can either trade a day with his ex or get a sitter. You're making it sound a lot harder than it is.[/quote]

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