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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]There's always some relationship missing for someone.[/b]

I love having one of each.  But I am a little sad my DD won't have a sister like I do.  I have a brother too, but he doesn't have a brother (just two sisters).  So I don't really feel sad my DS won't have a brother because it's not a relationship I saw growing up.  My DH has a sister, not a brother.

So no matter what, there's *something* missing.  But that's ok, because I love my kids and they are healthy and thriving and that's really the point of all this.[/quote]

This.  If I had unlimited resources and wasn't already in my 30s when we started our family, I'd have loved to have 2 boys and 2 girls so each child could have both same and opposite gender siblings and DH and I could have the experience of raising both boys and girls.  But, that's not to be.

We have one of each.  Older boy, younger girl.  I did really want a girl for #2 but, out of a desire to not be disappointed if that wasn't to be, I spent the weeks prior to the gender u/s envisioning all the great things of having 2 boys, giving #1 a brother etc.  Did such a good job that did feel a little pang of disappointment for not getting that when I learned we were having a girl!  There are great things about all the potential gender mixes and how well they get along all comes down to individual personalities.  In the end, very happy with one of each but they aren't particularly close.  DS never expressed that he wanted a brother but DD did have an "invisible sister" imaginary friend when she was little.  She's also been fortunate to become very close friends since 2nd grade with two girls who are both only-children.  The are in HS now and I don't think she'd have the close sister-like relationships with them if any of them had sisters.[/quote]

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