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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Given the state of your marriage and you and your DH's inability to talk about priorities and compromise, no way would I quit my job unless you have the type of career where you could easily re-enter and make a similar amount.

[b]You are digging your heels in about being a SAHM and he is digging his heels in about the house.  Neither of those are going to solve your problems.  You need to find a way to talk about what you need (not what you want) and how to make that happen. [/b] I think there is likely a way where you can get a bit of a break, focus on your health and your well-being and he can still have the security of a two-income family.  Things like he needs to fully take over for a good bit of the kid or house stuff, you need to hire more help (outsource all of your housework and more of the childcare), you could see about cutting back a bit at work, taking a medical leave (talk to your doctor), etc.

Spend more time uncovering what is behind what you both want and jointly work on a plan to get there. [/quote]

+1. I kept thinking OP were a single mom, what would she have done? While quitting might have been an option, I think looking into the employee assistance program at work, seeing if unpaid FMLA is possible, going to a doctor/therapy if depression is an issue, hiring a nanny or aupair to help with the twins, see if family could help out, seeing if you could work 32 hours a week temporarily are all things that would be options as a solution to overwhelm and getting more time time to recover.   Agree that DH may also have some things going on why he is so insistent about the new house.

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